We are always in Transition

I'm continuing to talk about transitions that I had talked about in my last blog. One of the things people don't realize when they're in transitions is they sometimes they get bogged down and with “I can't do this” type of attitude.

It doesn't matter whether this transition is caused by loss of a job, loss of a spouse, loss of a child. The way you get through it is by saying that word “WITH”.

Which is a very powerful word because you say “I can do this with the help of a higher power”, or “I can do this with help from friends”, or “I can do this with upgrading my skills”.

You can't let yourself get trapped where you have a “I am feeling sorry for myself mentality.” With the feel sorry mentality you spiral down and you'll never move on. I know because I had to fight that feeling for over a year after my wife died.

If I was coaching you, I would tell you spend a day, maybe a week, feeling sorry for yourself, then I would kick you in the **** and say you have to do something.

It's really not important what you do, but that you do something and that you have to keep moving forward. I remember when my grandfather died, one of my grandmother's friends moved into the house for a couple weeks.

She put an agenda together and she had my grandmother first clean out all my grandfather's clothes and shoes, throw out his ashtrays. She then had her clean the whole house from top to bottom and move somethings around.

They scrubbed the floors, they vacuum rugs, they washed clothes, and she took my grandmother out to buy some new things. Did my grandmother stop grieving no, but her friend helped her find new purpose in her life.

The family helped by having her over for dinner on weekends, myself being a young man at the time I was sent over there to help her put all her gardens together.

My uncle came over and we cleaned all the lumber and everything that my grandfather had accumulated in the garage, and we cleaned out the basement. My grandfather had been a pack rat and never threw anything out.

It's never too late to have purpose. Her purpose became that of a house mother. Taking in a UB student each semester. They would stay in my grandfather's room, and she would provide them with meals and do laundry for them and they would pay her rent.

She had purpose, and young people around her who could take her to the food store and do things around the house if she needed help. Are you struggling with a transition? Do you have purpose?

I have an ear that would love to hear your stories. Let’s taste the real meaning of life.

If you want to participate in this process and join my first class please send me an email to bobchuckpatterson@yahoo.com 

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